I have learned a lot about myself in these past couple months of not really having a typical job, and not really knowing what direction I’m going towards in the future, career wise. There have definitely been some stressful times when I think about finances and what will are we ever going to do if we have a kid. The thoughts that keep running through my head drive me off the wall and gets me more emotional than I need to get.
Thanks to Google, you can find anyand every bit of advice you can possibly imagine out there. I recently dove head first into the world of photography without really knowing which direction I want to go in terms of what I want to focus on. I also recently started this blog to try and share my thoughts and experiences as a photographer. I also have really finally tried to dive back into becoming a skating coach as well even though I still have no idea what I want to focus on.
When I feel lost, I usually turn to my husband or my sister to guide me. Oh, and also my good friend Google… boy let me tell you… if there is anything that can confuse you more than you already are, Google, and the multitude of opinions out there sure can throw you into a tornado of confusion. The major bit of advice I got about being an entrepreneur and the only way to be successful at starting my own business was to “pick your focus” and decide which area in your field you really want to hone in your efforts… GREAT.
Now if you know me, trying to figure out “what I want to be” or deciding which type of photography I want to do, what kind of skating coach I want to be, or what kind of things I should write about on a blog is damn near impossible.
All the advice I gathered from all my research was that not picking a focus and saying you do it all is a clear indication of “being new to the industry” or it gives of an aura of being non-committal.
If anything, reading all this advice has given left me even more bewildered. Truth be told, I am all over the place and love doing more than just one thing, just ask my husband :)
One day while driving in the car, Brent and I were discussing our careers and I, once again, felt so lost. Trying to figure where in the world my passions lie, what the heck I need to write about in my blog, where was I going with coaching.
Then a simple yet thought provoking question came to mind… Why the heck do you need toonly focus on one thing? Who says that’s the only way to be successful? Does one formula work for all?
The answer is: NO.
Don’t get me wrong, there are definitely some people who find their passion in one focused area, and that works for them… If you’re like me, you love doing more than just one thing. You have more than just one topic to love writing about. You don’t want to do what everybody else does… And it took me a while to realize that it’s OK. This is who I am and there lies my strengths.
Going back to a previous post I wrote about remembering your why, I just had to bring myself back to that. If I just do what I love and remember why I’m doing it, success will come. Passion will arise from the hard work I put into it…
So I have given myself a break. I’ve decided to just go with what I’m good at and what I enjoy doing. I love photographing life around me and capturing truth and pure emotion and allowing people to relieve those moments for years to come. I love passing on the knowledge and experiences I have gained over my many years of competing in the world of figure skating to the upcoming generation of dreamers in hopes that one day they can be a champion. And lastly, I love writing all of my experiences (not just in photography and travel) down and sharing them with my friends and family in hopes to INSPIRE, to LEAD, and to bring HOPE. To allow my readers a place to feel like they are not alone.
In the end, people may think that not focusing in one aspect of any of the fields I work in is self-destruction. I don’t believe it for one second (at least not anymore).
When is life EVER going in ONE direction? I don’t think that in this life-time or another, will we ever go in one direction. When we find our “calling” it may not just be ONE thing.
After much time and thought, I now am a full believer that our “calling” is not to be the best at one thing like we are lead to believe. I believe our calling is to make the best of what we have, adapt to the changes that life brings us, and to be the good we all expect others to be. There is no ONE path to success. There is not ONE formula that has proven to be.
So GO. Follow those who do good and lead those who want to learn. You don’t need to another writer, photographer, or coach to tell you what you love and what you don’t. As long as you remember why you’re doing it in the first place and that it comes from a good and honest place, success is right around the corner.